Adoption

It’s no secret to anyone who knows me.

Or anyone who visits my blog.

That more than anything I want to be a mom. 

People tell me all the time that I should adopt. And I’ve looked into it.  And there is no way I could ever do it.

Here’s why……

A friend of my best friend took her cousins baby as her own.  The cousin was a young teen that didn’t want to do it anymore.  The new mom, let’s call her Sarah was married, had a career, two other children and a good life. 

Sarah and her husband loved that baby as she birthed her herself.  The birth mother severed her parental rights and they had completed the process to become her legal parents.  

And out of the woodwork comes the dad.  A teenager who was not a citizen, who admitted in court that he smokes pot and doesn’t have a drivers license or attend school and makes $150 per month.

And he decides that he wants to be this babys dad.

After a year  of the baby being with them, the court found that it was in the child’s best interest, to go and live with the father. 

And now this babies life will be turned upside down.  And this family is devastated. 

This is what the court said:

The Court finds that pursuant to A.R.S. § 25-415(B), the Court must presume that it is inthe child’s best interest to award custody to a legal parent, in this case, Father. The Court finds
that it is evident that at this time the NEW PARENTS would be more qualified to care for the child.

However, pursuant to the statute, just being more qualified as a parent is not sufficient to overcome the presumption that a child needs to be reared by the child’s biological parent. The
decision is made even more difficult by the fact that in the last 11 months, the NEW PARENTS have embraced the child as one of their own.

If love alone would control the Court’s decision, it
would seem that at least at this time the NEW PARENTS would prevail. However, that is not the standard. The legislature has directed that the Court’s award custody of a child to a biological
parent unless the Courts can find that the child would somehow be harmed by such an award.

The Court finds no evidence that Father presents any type of danger to the child. Although he is very young, Father seems earnest in his determination to provide for the child.

I see kids everyday……..raised by their biological parents, and the kids are a mess. 

And I could not bear the pain of loosing a child. 

And this is why I won’t adopt. 

(If you have a moment today, say a prayer for this little girl “monica”.  Thank  you.)